The lie of
love
Disney and other companies have taught us what
love is, but is it what they say it is? Is everything that fantastic and
beautiful?
Psychologists don’t think so. Love in emotional
intelligence is not defined, maybe because there is no concrete answer or there
aren’t any science studies with clear conclusions. As I said before there is a
group of psychologist, where my mom includes herself that thinks that the idea
of love that companies such as Disney talks us about is the romantic one. They
think this one is bad for society because it generates dependency relationships
where one of the parts of the couple thinks that he/she could not live without
the other one. Therefore this could finish in maleness or genre violence,
because the one who thinks that he/she cannot live without the other one is
going to endure anything that the other one do. It can also develop depressions
when the relationship finishes.
In real world there is no prince or princess to
save us. We don’t have to change to be the right person to anyone we only have
to change the other person if she/he is not the right one for us.
It’s also true that Disney is trying to change
the view of love that it offers. In the very new films such as Frozen or Brave
we can see how the typical blue prince is the bad person of the movie or in
Brave where the princess is lesbian. There have been a lot of comments about
those stories but do you really think there is something wrong?
Our society tries to be modern but the reality
is that our ideals have not change in the lasts years. We are still thinking
that is disgusting to see couples of the same sex maybe not everyone but is a
common thing. We have been under religious ideology too many years to try to
change it in a few.
I talked about the end of relationships and
depressions. This is also common when something you are well with ends or when
someone who you shared goods moments with leaves is normal to feel bad or sad
but you have to keep going and to pass it the best way is to distract yourself
with something else like sports or videogames or reading too, are the best
ideas. Maybe if you have bought together a house or you live very near the best
idea to pass though it in a nice and easy way is taking a break and going out
for some holidays.
To finish this essay I want to share my point
of view, I’m nothing, I’m not psychologist or any kind of professional to talk
about the topic or to give something like a definition but I’m going to go it. J
For me love is when you understand your couple
and she/he does it back, when you are prepared to pass through anything
together and support each other. When you don’t need each other but miss if you
don’t meet in a while. And the most important when you can talk to the other
one like a friend and kiss like a couple.
ÁLEX MONDÉJAR
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